Wine Talk

Snooth User: humpdog

is your spouse/S.O. a fan of the grape?

Posted by humpdog, Feb 22, 2012.

in a perfect world, everyone's spouse or significant other would share our deep and abiding affection for vino.  however, my wife, truly the most wonderful person i know, is not much of a wine drinker.

oh sure, she'll try some of my purchases when i offer but she is usually not a fan, no matter what kind of wine it is. (unless it's sweet) she just doesn't doesn't like the stuff.  as a consequence, i do more of my wine drinking with friends and neighbors, sometimes at our house, sometimes at theirs.

i am curious to know if other people's spouses/signficant others are also not particularly huge wine fans.  if they aren't, is there ever any domestic tension over your purchasing and consumption habits?  :)


Reply by shsim, Feb 22, 2012.

Haha I just laughed when I read your post because my significant other loves beer. He homebrews and is all about good craft beer. He is convinced beer is underated which I kind of agree with regards to food pairing... However, he is getting more into wine because I compromised and started getting into beer... so its a trade off. It just sucks when he wants to drink beer with dinner but I want wine. So I have the same problem of not being able to share my wine with someone else... Of course I can store it for the next few days but it is just more fun to share your experience of tasting and pairing with food. So I guess we just have to compromise and do beer sometimes and then wine.

Encourage her to join you and probably get wines she enjoys at the beginning so she slowly likes it more. Bring her wine tasting and experience wine tasting and make it fun such that she would want to do it again! I dont know much but just some suggestions! Slowly but surely! :D

Reply by humpdog, Feb 22, 2012.

@shsim--u are right on target  with everything you said.  feeling the "obligation" to finish off most of a bottle by myself is a heavy millstone around my neck. (i know- you're all laughing; i am too)

in my case, i too like beer.  and what could be better than a well-made martini?  so as you can see, my problem is kind of magnifed by the fact that i like other libations besides wine.

thanks for your excellent tips!

Reply by shsim, Feb 22, 2012.


yea i always feel like I have to finish the bottle once I open it. But I have discovered that it is nice to have an entire bottle to yourself for a few days to let the wine open up and taste them at different levels... although dont leave it for too long! Drinking it within 2-3 days is fun!

Haha same for me. I definitely enjoy beer on a warm day better. And good cocktails! Well everything takes time.. just give and take! :D

Reply by Gregory Dal Piaz, Feb 23, 2012.

Mine was not.

I am in the market for one who is!

Reply by dmcker, Feb 23, 2012.

Sounds like there's a story or three to be told over a few bottles. Happy hunting! I'm in a similar situation, myself.

Reply by shsim, Feb 23, 2012.

Haha wine lovers unite!

Reply by smithdaj54, Feb 23, 2012.

Mine is, and it makes things sooooo much easier.  So grateful that we both enjoy tastings and good wine!  You also have to look at it from a financial standpoint, makes splitting a more expensive bottle that I may not usually buy for myself more affordable.  We're romantic like that. 

Reply by outthere, Feb 23, 2012.

Mine is just as happy with a $12 Cline Zin (or maybe more) as she is with a $100 Williams-Selyem Pinot. Been trying to geek her up a bit but that may never happen. She's much more complex in other ways. ;-)

Reply by EMark, Feb 23, 2012.

Peggy is a wine lover.  However, her preference is white wine, and I'm more a red wine kind of guy.   We have wine with our dinner almost every evening.  We eat a fair amount of white meat and fish.  So, I do have my share of Sauvignon Blanc, Chardonnay, Gavi, Albarino, et. al.  As often as not, though. two bottles are open (white for her, red for me) on our dinner table, although we usually take 2-3 days to empty them  I do have a feel, though, on how she tastes..  If I happen to pull out a better than average red from the stock, I'll suggest that she try it.  In that case, after she tastes mine, as often as not she'll get another glass and have some.

We've found a way to combat the extortion at winery tasting rooms.  We will share a single glass between us.  That works out reasonably well.  The tastes that are poured can generally easily be shared.


Reply by shsim, Feb 23, 2012.

Hmm I never thought of opening two bottles and just saving the bottles for later.. We always just try to decide on what we want to have with dinner! Its probably better if we take turns to pick... today was not a good day of deciding.. I was craving a chardonnay but he wanted viognier... and then i opted for red, and I wanted pinot and he wanted grenache... oh well. I gave up and let him pick in the end so next time I pick!

Yea we always share tastings since its pretty decent pours usually so we save and we can taste a wider variety!


Reply by Richard Foxall, Feb 23, 2012.

Y'know the wineries in the RRV just offered to let us share a glass and save on the tasting fee this last Monday.  If I had been with the wife, probably would have gone ahead, since we are now one environment for germs.  Never been offered before and was with a pal who I knew would be buying wine anyway, so we were going to get our fees refunded .

Yes, my wife likes wine.  Not a geek about it like I am, but has no problem with spending $100 on a bottle of Chat. Montelena (she picked our 10 year anniv wine as we walked past a wine shop in Sonoma one day) and has ordered me (okay, that's a little strong) to stock up on Brunello, a personal favorite.  This is, of course, not news to several people here, since she came to the "Drink Greg's Wine" event at Snooth last fall and held her own. I did avoid the conversation (reading this, dmcker?) about whether red wine makes women more amorous because you have to be somewhat of a gentleman once in a while.  In any case, whatever effect wine has on my wife, it wasn't enough to get her very interested in the winemaker from a big Sonoma Pinot producer that she dated before me, lucky for me, but she supports my habits, within reason.  If she has a complaint, it's about the space it takes up, not the money, because I can't resist a good deal and am constantly hitting up my fave discounter, David at WineMine, and any other source that offers me a good discount. Thank goodness there's so much brunello in those discount aisles-we're all happy that way.

You know, GdP, I know a very attractive woman who does PR for wineries out here... last I knew she was single.  Just saying.

Reply by DancesWithWords, Feb 28, 2012.

My SO doesn't drink. At all. Ever. Nuthin'.

And while it IS nice to always have a designated driver on hand, I do miss being able to rhapsodize over a particularly wondeful wine, or spend a lazy afternoon comparing three (or four, or five ...) I miss cruising around France and hitting every available cave to sample whatever's available. I miss having a wine-shopping partner who views a massive, well-stocked wine store with a reverence usually reserved for the Vatican.

Ah, well ... maybe in my next life ..

Reply by shsim, Feb 28, 2012.

shucks, thats a bummer. People who dont drink dont know what they are missing out. But hey, thats what friends are for! :D

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